Editorial,  Int J Ment Health Psychiatry Vol: 6 Issue: 3

Marital and Psychological Distress in Relationship

Elizabeth Midlarsky^*

Councelling and clinical psychology, Columbia University, New York, USA

*Corresponding Author : Midlarsky E
Councelling and clinical psychology, Columbia University, New York, USA
E-mail: erm142@gmail.com

Received Date: July 6, 2020; Accepted Date: July 16, 2020; Published Date: July 30, 2020

Citation: Midlarsky E (2020) Marital and Psychological Distress in Relationship. Int J Ment Health Psychiatry 6:3. DOI: 10.37532/ijmhp.2020.6(3).e102

Abstract

Keywords: Mental Health, Stress

Editorial

Five things that are essential for any Relationships: trust, respect, love, attention and communication. Trust is one of the most important ingredients of a happy and healthy relationship. Respecting the individuality of your partner is another important thing in a relationship. Marital distress is one of the most frequently encountered and disturbing human problems. Marital distress has powerful effects on the partners, often leading to great sadness, worry, a high level of tension, anxiety, and depression. And, if prolonged, it can negatively impact one's physical health. It is one of the most frequently encountered and disturbing human problems. Most Common Marriage Problems Faced by Married Couples: Infidelity, Sexual differences, Values and beliefs, Life stages, Traumatic situations, Money problem, Stress, Boredom, Jealousy. Everyone who is married experiences difficulties, but for some, these troubles reach the point that partners become profoundly disappointed and upset about their marriages and may even come to question whether they want to continue to remain married. Marital distress is very unsettling and the ways marital problems often progress make it easy for things to go from bad to worse. However, in most situations, this flow in a negative direction can be altered. Most marriages can return to being satisfying. Sometimes people can make these changes on their own, but frequently help from a couple therapist is needed. Disappointment in the relationship doesn’t just come and go; it is a constant companion. Most frequently, couples with high levels of marital distress fight a good deal and their fights don’t lead to resolution, but simply a sense of being worn out. Or they may not fight, but simply feel completely disconnected. People stop doing nice things for each other, they stop communicating, and things tend to go from bad to worse. Frequent arguments that don’t get resolved, loss of good feelings, and loss of friendship, sex and vitality are other signs that a marriage is distressed.

Other signs, such as contempt, withdrawal, violence, and a complete loss of connection signal that a marriage is in desperate trouble and that it is at high risk for divorce. And you need not be legally married to have “marital distress.” Serious, long-term, committed relationships can experience these kinds of major problems, too. Sometimes marital problems are purely about problems in the relationship such as communication, solving problems, arguing, intimacy, and sex. These kinds of problems often begin with partners simply not having a good sense of how to be married and how to communicate and provide support. Other times couples may do well for a while, particularly in the earliest stages of their romance, but they are not ready for the longer-term tasks in marriage. Studies of couples show that while the risks for marital distress and divorce are highest early in marriage, these risks also grow just after the transitions that occur when couples begin to have children and when the children reach adolescence. Other times, marital problems are directly the result of individual problems, such as substance abuse. And marriages can even seem to be going well, but one shattering event like an extramarital affair will throw a marriage into distress. Marital distress has powerful effects on partners; often leading to great sadness, worry, a high level of tension, and problems such as depression. If prolonged, it even has been shown to have direct effect on physical health. The effect on families is also profound, especially when conflict is high. Children raised in high conflict homes tend to have many more problems than other children. And once marriages are distressed, a progression begins that easily becomes a cascade downward, ultimately leading to the ending of a marriage.

Treatment for marital distress is in part building or rebuilding the skills that work in marriage, such as learning to communicate and problem solve, and how to fight without engaging in too much hurt. marital therapy is about partners working to see each other as people, to understand where they are coming from, and to negotiate those differences that can be negotiated and accept those differences that cannot. Couples all have issues that stay with them; the key is to build a process that can help find a way to talk about those issues, to find solutions, and not have the problems that emerge in life become overwhelming. Couple therapists have special training in couple therapy. They know how to help couples have a sense of progress even as they struggle with difficult issues. There are many kinds of effective couple therapy. Some promote skills and practice, others look more at the past and how things got this way; most combine the two.